Enneagram Type 4s are nicknamed “The Individualist” for their need to be authentic and different. Fours are sensitive, creative, and emotionally attuned to their feelings and the feelings of others.
If you’re looking to have a deep, meaningful conversation with someone, a Type 4 would be the perfect person for you to go to. They’re not afraid to go deep into emotions and sometimes might even feel comfortable being there.
Below you will find an overview of what motivates the Enneagram Type 4 and things they can work on to improve their daily living.
Enneagram Type 4’s Focus of Attention
Their Inner State/How They’re Feeling
What’s Missing
Status of their Relationships/Connections
Type 4’s Passion: Envy
The passion (or vice) of Enneagram Type 4 is envy. (Learn about the Enneagram Type Passions here.)
While we all experience envy to some degree, Fours’ envy involves a painful sense of lacking. To accommodate this self-perceived lack, they search for what’s “missing” by looking outside themselves for it.
Type Fours have a tendency always to compare themselves to others. They dwell on what other people have that they think of as good and feel envious that they don’t have it.
By concentrating on what they don’t have, they forget to feel grateful for what they do have.
Type 4’s Strengths and Struggles
Strengths
Struggles
- Empathetic
- Value authenticity
- Truth-tellers
- Creative
- Emotionally intuitive
- Great companions
- Appreciates the beauty in everything
- Can get stuck in difficult emotions and have a hard time getting out of them
- Constantly comparing themselves to others
- Can come off as moody or too deep and complex
- Can have overly strong emotions (high highs and low lows)
- Self-referencing
Things for Enneagram Type 4 to Work On
> Notice the similarities between yourself and others instead of always focusing on the differences. Accept life on your own terms and not based on anyone else’s.
If Someone You Love is a Type 4
- Type Fours want to know that they are really special to you in your relationship. Make an extra effort to let them know you care, either with affirming words or actions.
- Fours need to feel understood regarding their experience, especially by their partner. While you may never know to a deep extent what they’re feeling, try to mirror back to your Four what they are conveying to you so that they know they are being listened to.
“He who envies others does not obtain peace of mind.”
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